If you have been reading the last couple of blogs you know that I am currently grieving my mother’s death. So, I decided to make a series on the blog titled, “Overcoming Grief.” I wanted to create a space that would help and encourage others to get through this painful season. I’m praying that the Lord enable me to provide advice that could help us all along our journey of healing. When you have gone through a specific situation you are able to understand firsthand the challenges it brings and take on the same feelings that others have felt.
In today’s blog focuses on the lessons I have learned so far. If you have any lessons that you would like to share, please feel free to comment below.
7 Lessons I Learned While Grieving
Life Is Too Short to Be Unhappy
Do you honestly know how much time you have here on Earth? Are you living a life full of peace, joy, love and prosperity? I don’t think we realize just how valuable time really is. God has given us all a Divine time here on Earth and life is precious! Now, I truly believe that we as humans can rush that time by the choices we make. For example, if you are not taking care of your body and as a result you develop numerous preventable diseases and illnesses. Now is the time to take a look at your life. Are there any areas that you are not happy with? If you answered yes GET TO WORK! You don’t have the luxury of time to just sit idle and wish or pray without doing “the work.” How many years have we wished for a situation to get better only to realize it’s has remained the same? Decide to make a change today and do it! Your life is too precious to waste.
Keep Being the Light
When I gave my life back to God, I experienced pure hell from my family. They criticized and mocked God. It was so much sin being exposed in their lives that they treated me so poorly. They misquoted scripture, believed lies over the truth, and told me that I judged them, but even through that my sister and I stayed focused.
God was doing a major work in us, but we had to endure through that process. I believe God was preparing to use us to bring our mother back to Him. Month after month we talked to her and encouraged her with the Word. She didn’t receive it well for a while, but I am happy to say weeks before my mother’s death she began to submit to God. I know she repented and gave her heart back to God. God confirmed it several times after her death that she was now with Him, and I didn’t have to worry.
So, keep being the light in your family. Even if they disown you keep showing up for God and encouraging them with the word. You could be the one He uses to lead your loved ones back to Christ.
Don’t Live a Life that You will Regret
Regret is a hard pill to swallow! I saw firsthand what it looks like to regret decisions you made in your past. It’s so very important to lean on God for all your decision making. I hear a lot of people say,” Well I am following my heart.” Don’t be deceived! Jeremiah 17:9 states, “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” As humans we like to think we know it all BUT we don’t. You have no way of knowing what the next few hours will bring. Make your decisions based on the Word of God and not on pure emotions because your emotions are unreliable.
If you have made this mistake REPENT and ask God for forgiveness and be sincere. Ultimately, life is what we decide to make it! So, let me encourage you to not settle just because you think that your life is limited or because there is no hope for better after all you have been through. Those lies are straight from the pit of hell! If you have air in your body then you still have time to change. I don’t care what age you are THERE IS STILL TIME FOR YOU TO BECOME A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF!
Start today! Don’t be one of the millions that look back on their life and regret your decisions! That’s not a part of God’s plan for any of us!
God is Our Vindicator
Are there battles in your life that you are tired of fighting? What about situations that just don’t seem to want to change? Stop fighting in your own strength! You don’t have to fight any of the battles you face physically! Don’t get yourself all distorted inside. You must learn to fight in the spirit! Ephesians 6:12 states, “For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” So, when problems arise in life, it’s not the people you are actually fighting against but the evil spirit that is within them.
When I came to truly understand this, I was able to abide in peace more. God will repay evil for evil! You only need to cast it to Him. To truly understand I recommend you read and study Ephesians 6:10-18, and then I would suggest that you go back and read the entire book of Ephesians even though it’s a short book it’s powerful and it will bless you tremendously!
Seeking God’s Kingdom and His Righteousness Over Everything Else
Seeking God’s Kingdom and His Righteousness will bring you clarity, knowledge and understanding of who God is and how He expects us to live our lives. As you understand who God is, you will see things from a spiritual perspective. You will start to live your life as Heaven sees fit and not as the world sees fit. You will realize that there will be less confusion, worry, sickness, drama in your life. When you are aligned with God you lower the chances of getting involved in unnecessary drama. God never leads us astray it’s our own fleshly desires that do. Matthew 6:33 states, “But first and most importantly seek (aim at, strive after) His kingdom and His righteousness [His way of doing and being right—the attitude and character of God], and all these things will be given to you also.” (AMP)
Unforgiveness will Destroy You
Holding unforgiveness in your heart will hinder the forgiveness that you receive from God. Mark 11:25 states, “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” Unforgiveness is the root cause for so many illnesses and diseases. Take some time and do a Google search on unforgiveness. I promise you will find out things you never knew. Louise Hays tells a story of how she believed that she developed cancer by harboring resentment from past traumas. Unforgiveness doesn’t hurt anyone but yourself. It’s like taking poison and wishing that the other person would die. ITS NOT WORTH THE CONSEQUENCES! LET IT GO AND ALLOW GOD TO HEAL YOU!
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Going through grief is definitely a process that stirs up a lot of thoughts and emotions. And honestly if we’re not careful we can begin to grieve so hard that we start to lose ourselves and lose focus of what God has called us to do and become. So it’s encouraging to see the healing process from a different perspective and learn from someone else. This post blessed me because it’s a constant remind that God is our only place of refuge in times like this, and that no matter the emotions we may take on He has a remedy to restore and heal our brokenness. Thank you! ♥️
Tiffany, you are so very welcomed! I am glad that you found comfort in my post! I pray that God continues to strengthen you as you go through the healing process! God bless you!